tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280627664599611047.post842293739773862024..comments2023-04-18T02:43:28.430-07:00Comments on An empty chair at our table: What I wantAlicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02472729169216109749noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280627664599611047.post-33849816060907490252008-05-22T10:47:00.000-07:002008-05-22T10:47:00.000-07:00Hello AliceI am a friend of Honey.I have been ther...Hello Alice<BR/>I am a friend of Honey.<BR/>I have been there with the rational brain telling me to give up, while the rest of me wanted to keep on trying.<BR/>I'm sure there is a set of labels for all that - id v ego, or somesuch Latin phrase. Whatever it is, it's normal - not that that makes it any easier to deal with!<BR/>DizDizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07105887986460483010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280627664599611047.post-40532528266320055162008-05-13T11:06:00.000-07:002008-05-13T11:06:00.000-07:00Alice, boy, that does sound like good assvice does...Alice, boy, that does sound like good assvice doesn't it? I'm not sure it helps makes any decisions however. It does make me feel a little less stressed when I can't come to to any decision. I realize that I am just shifting the scales back and forth. I also once heard someone say that people who say that that fell in love at first sight always said so retrospectively, and that perhaps if they did not still love that person they would not consider that they had fallen in love at first sight. I thought this was perhaps a lot like decision making, really only in retrospect, can we be the type of people who say I always know the right the thing to do. At least for me that is the case. But, actually, I do believe in love at first sight. I got married 6 weeks after I met my husband, I was a college freshman, he was a Navy officer and we have been married 26 years. Call me a romantic, but I am still horrible at decision making!<BR/>I hope your upcoming transfer goes well and without problems. I will be thinking of you.Melissiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04400720995551600134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280627664599611047.post-65719544344540209672008-05-13T06:58:00.000-07:002008-05-13T06:58:00.000-07:00I'm going through the same dilemma. Let me know w...I'm going through the same dilemma. Let me know when you figure it out and I'll know which voice to listen to.Tashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280627664599611047.post-16661377908708230952008-05-13T06:07:00.000-07:002008-05-13T06:07:00.000-07:00I think that's very wise advice. Thank you. Alic...I think that's very wise advice. Thank you. AliceAlicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02472729169216109749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280627664599611047.post-24628062385404707532008-05-11T21:29:00.000-07:002008-05-11T21:29:00.000-07:00Couldn't both of those people be you and just diff...Couldn't both of those people be you and just different possibilities for your life? I once had a therapist who said that every decision is usually 49% vs 51% then 50/50 then 51% to 49% and back again, especially the decisions that have the power to cause pain or the decisions that really aren't within our control. My guess is that this indecision is a way to protect ourselves until in retrospect we can say "that was the right decision".Melissiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04400720995551600134noreply@blogger.com